Do you want to be right or do you want to win?

posted March 19th, 2008 by Janet Graham

When I first started working, I thought the answer to this question was so obvious it did not merit thinking about. Of course, I wanted to be right! How could I consider myself to have won, if I had not been right/done the right thing etc. And today, I look back and think I was quite naive! In fact, I have come full circle. I can see clearly that winning provides me with the ability to influence/have the impact I want to have. And the more I win, the more influence and impact I have.

In my opinion, this is an interesting place from which to evaluate any position you take, particularly when things do not seem “fair” or you seem stuck/entrenched in your perspective. What choices will you make? What approach will you take? Do you want to be right or do you want to win?

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Blog Worth Reading!!

posted March 19th, 2008 by Janet Graham

Mark McQueen, president and CEO of Wellington Financial LP in Toronto, started in 2006 and it’s worth reading. In particular, his blog yesterday about the Bear Stearns “bailout” puts the credit crunch in an interesting historical context.

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What is it to be BIG?

posted March 10th, 2008 by Janet Graham

This is a question I am pondering at the moment. Obviously, it is a powerful question and there is no right or complete answer. It is simply (or not) something I want to reflect on in terms of my life. How does being BIG figure into my relationships, my work, my impact on the world? You get the idea. So, what is it to be BIG?

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What is a duffleflucker? Nobody warned me; men can’t multi-task!

posted March 8th, 2008 by Janet Graham

I coined this term last Christmas. I felt like I was running around doing 8 million things every day and my husband (who has one person on his list for whom to shop) let me know he didn’t care for Christmas; it was so stressful!! So many things to do, so many people to keep happy, so many gifts to buy (and no idea what to buy!) And I lost it!! I told him he might start by paying attention to what people seem to like and buying it for them. I promised they would be blown away by the thoughtfulness, whether the gift was perfect or not. But I digress! And I really blew it when I asked him to run a couple of errands for me. His eyes went blank, his faced drained of colour and he was distressed to think I would pressure him at a stressful …


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