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http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ Babes on Bay Street is an online community to connect and inspire women working in Toronto’s financial core. en-US Tue, 07 Sep 2010 05:47:23 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/search.php http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/what-makes-me-uniquely-remarkable#post-42 Mon, 19 Jul 2010 14:25:01 +0000 Janet Graham 42@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>My beloved says it's my friends and I agree with him. How lucky can one girl get?</p> <p>What about you? </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/where-am-i-selling-out-on-myself#post-41 Tue, 01 Jun 2010 12:31:32 +0000 Janet Graham 41@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>The short answer is I sell out on myself when I don't ask for what I want. </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/when-do-i-allow-myself-to-not-be-my-word#post-40 Tue, 25 May 2010 15:31:31 +0000 Janet Graham 40@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>I allow myself to not be my word when I do not keep the promises I make to myself!!</p> <p>What about you? </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/recharging#post-39 Fri, 21 May 2010 21:30:02 +0000 sjg4 39@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>My batteries get recharged when I take my Shiba Inu, Bruin down to the beach and walk and splash in the sunshine or rain. I love the ocean and those waves coming up on the beach take all my problems out to sea when they rush back out.</p> <p>Hattie-san </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/what-will-recharge-my-batteries#post-38 Mon, 17 May 2010 15:48:33 +0000 Janet Graham 38@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>This is the perfect question for me this week. I am at the cottage with my beloved. And I know spending this time together, going for a boat ride, taking the dog for a walk without a leash, working in the garden, reading a novel, watching dvd's, having a fire, listening to music etc etc etc are some of the things needed to recharge my batteries. </p> <p>What about you? </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/what-is-integrity#post-37 Mon, 10 May 2010 13:46:03 +0000 Janet Graham 37@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>Integrity means living in a way which is consistent with your values and keeping the promises you make to yourself and others. It means having courage and standing up for what and who you believe in. It requires strength. And I wouldn't want to live or be any other way!!</p> <p>What about you? </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/what-is-it-to-be-present#post-36 Mon, 26 Apr 2010 16:22:01 +0000 Janet Graham 36@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>It means walking the dog and experiencing the beauty of a fabulous spring day. It means actually seeing the fresh green of the leaves against the clear blue sky and the vivid colours of the flowers on the spring shrubs and hearing the birds singing. It means to feel fully alive, in this very moment!! </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/what-am-i-grateful-for-today#post-35 Tue, 20 Apr 2010 15:17:40 +0000 Janet Graham 35@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>On this magnificent spring day, I am grateful for girlfriends!! I cannot imagine my life without them!! My heart bursts when I think what they mean to me and my life!!</p> <p>If you are reading this you are probably one of them; please know I love you!! </p> <p>xo </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/are-you-keeping-the-small-promises-you-make-to-yourself#post-34 Fri, 16 Apr 2010 18:57:26 +0000 sjg4 34@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>The majority of the small promises I made to myself within the last 5 years I have kept. I HAD TO DO THAT TO GET MY HEALTH AND SANITY BACK. </p> <p>Without taking charge of my medical condition and showing/telling doctors and specialists that I was not going to end up in a wheelchair, I would not have survived the last few years. I knew my long term goal. Simply stated it was, "I'm going to golf again." Being able to walk back onto a golf course, socialize, play as a team and become confident in all I had to do takes many, many small promises.</p> <p>To make this happen, I had to make many choices that disrupted my family, provoked some ostracization from friends and lead me to make a deeper commitment to my faith. </p> <p>The most significant promise was to live in the "NOW". Forgive the past and don't stress about the future. These 3 small promises keep me strong today and guide me through my minutes, hours and days.</p> <p>Hattie-san </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/are-you-keeping-the-small-promises-you-make-to-yourself#post-33 Mon, 12 Apr 2010 14:58:36 +0000 Janet Graham 33@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>For me the answer to this question is all about making choices which are consistent with what I say I want in my life. In essence, the choices I make impact whether I keep the small promises I make to myself. And sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. And I want more of the times when I do. And when I don't, I will endeavour to learn from the situation and be gentle with myself. In this way, I expect to move towards what I am wanting in my life. </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/what-is-it-to-be-gentle-with-myself-1#post-32 Tue, 06 Apr 2010 23:27:34 +0000 sjg4 32@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>I give myself the opportunity to relax, not be criticalof any of my actions and continue practising "Mindlessness" on a daily basis. </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/what-is-it-to-be-gentle-with-myself#post-31 Mon, 05 Apr 2010 11:56:01 +0000 Janet Graham 31@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>Being gentle with myself means slowing down, taking one thing at a time, letting go of the harsh judge and critic which resides inside. In essence, it means allowing myself to simply be. I know it will take practice, so I will simply start!! </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/what-is-kindness#post-30 Mon, 29 Mar 2010 11:51:25 +0000 Janet Graham 30@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>I selected this question today because sometimes I need to remind myself to be kind to myself, as well as, others. Gentleness and compassion are a gift I can give to myself (and others). And it seems this is one of life's lessons which bears repeating. </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/foot-off-the-gas#post-29 Sat, 27 Mar 2010 04:17:41 +0000 sjg4 29@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>I want to respond to Jan's book idea. Just a thought for you when you go to publish your book. I would suggest that you write an accompanying manual where people can access tear out pages that serve as guides to many of your ideas, activities and pearls of wisdom in Part 1. </p> <p> Part 2 could be a manual that could follow the learnings in the text, but would ask for people to involve themselves by answering and giving practical suggestions and answers to your lessons/ideas.</p> <p>WHAT DO YOU THINK ? Hattie-san </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/where-am-i-taking-my-foot-off-the-gas#post-28 Mon, 22 Mar 2010 15:27:18 +0000 Janet Graham 28@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>I am taking my foot off the gas with all of my wonderful ideas for Babes on Bay Street....I want to write a book and have it published, speak about it, promote and market it etc etc etc </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/who-am-i-without-the-struggle#post-27 Mon, 08 Mar 2010 14:15:48 +0000 Janet Graham 27@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>I struggle with certain behaviours in my life where I am a repeat offender. I do the same thing over and over again, achieve the same result and spend time dealing with the negative consequences. I "struggle" with it over and over again. Hence, I ask myself: Who am I without the struggle? I am filled with joy and a sense of freedom!! I am inspired and creative!! My life is light and frothy and full of sunshine!! I am calm and gracious and wise!! I am happy!! </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/what-makes-me-proud#post-26 Mon, 01 Mar 2010 13:33:57 +0000 Janet Graham 26@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>I think this is the perfect question for the day which follows the closing of the Vancouver 2010 Winter Olympics and the spectacular performance by all of the Canadian athletes and the Men's Hockey Team in particular. </p> <p>In my everyday life, I am proudest when I have the impact on the world I intend, whatever the circumstance!!</p> <p>What about you? </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/what-is-fun#post-25 Wed, 24 Feb 2010 17:12:40 +0000 sjg4 25@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>Fun? Fun is how I've been spending every day since I jumped in my truck, with my dog on January 27, 2009 and drove to Puerto Penasco, Mexico from Edmonton, Alberta. Fun is getting your life back after poor health. Fun is cancelling going to play cards with a bunch of retired Americans because I have to watch the Men's quarter finals between Canada and Russia during the Olympics in Vancouver. Fun is going to a $5.00 Pasta Night with Adrianne and meeting new people. Fun is walking the beach with Bruin, my loyal and protective, Shiba Inu dog. Fun is living the life I want to live. Fun is keeping in contact with all the people who love me. Fun is taking any time you want to sit down and read. Hattie-san </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/what-is-fun-1#post-24 Mon, 22 Feb 2010 15:54:38 +0000 Janet Graham 24@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>Fun is having a date with your husband or lunch with a girlfriend. It's going to see Avatar and wearing the 3D glasses. It's reading a magazine or a novel in front of your fireplace on Friday afternoon. It's having a bubble bath. It's watching the Canada/US game with your kids or helping them plan their honeymoon. It's being loved and loving back!</p> <p>That's fun for me!! What about you? </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/what-is-fun#post-23 Mon, 22 Feb 2010 15:54:14 +0000 Janet Graham 23@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>Fun is having a date with your husband or lunch with a girlfriend. It's going to see Avatar and wearing the 3D glasses. It's reading a magazine or a novel in front of your fireplace on Friday afternoon. It's having a bubble bath. It's watching the Canada/US game with your kids or helping them plan their honeymoon. It's being loved and loving back!</p> <p>That's fun for me!! What about you? </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/what-is-it-to-move-toward-the-fear#post-22 Tue, 16 Feb 2010 19:38:51 +0000 sjg4 22@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>Congratulations. I'm behind you 100%.</p> <p>Hattie-san </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/what-is-it-to-move-toward-the-fear#post-21 Tue, 16 Feb 2010 13:08:06 +0000 Janet Graham 21@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>This question is a timely one for me because I am beginning to write Babes on Bay Street - the book (and the book proposal which will support its being sent out into the world). This is something I have thought about doing for years!!! And it is a scary proposition and having taken a few steps towards this long standing objective I can report moving toward the fear is an exciting undertaking!!! I am proud of myself and terrified and I promise you (and I make this same solemn promise to myself) I will continue to move toward the fear and in doing so I will continue to move this much loved project forward. </p> <p>What about you? </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/what-am-i-tolerating#post-20 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 17:43:16 +0000 sjg4 20@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>What a totally BRUTALLY PERSONAL question that I am choosing to answer by giving each one of your questions an answer with a small phrase.</p> <p>1...can be so personal, deep and honest</p> <p>2...my weight</p> <p>3...dependence on medications, lack of true honesty in every relationship, my aloneness.</p> <p>4...my insecurities and my happiness</p> <p>5...not totally fulfilled, thus not sharing a deep personal relationship with 1 special male person</p> <p>6...return of my medical condition</p> <p>7...avoid emotional risk-taking which leads everywhere.</p> <p>Hattie-san </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/what-am-i-tolerating#post-19 Mon, 08 Feb 2010 12:27:02 +0000 Janet Graham 19@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>What makes me reluctant to answer this one in public? What am I tolerating? In my own behaviour, in my relationships, in my life. What makes me hold back? What is the impact of what I am tolerating on my life and what is the impact of remaining silent? What do I fear? What harm do I do myself, my relationships and my life? Lots more to think about!!! Enjoy!!! </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/what-is-grace#post-18 Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:51:07 +0000 Janet Graham 18@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>In my mind, grace is the ability or quality which allows one to face any and all circumstances with calm and serenity. It facilitates staying present and dealing with what is versus what was or what will be. </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/how-do-i-choose-to-be-this-week#post-17 Mon, 25 Jan 2010 12:49:32 +0000 Janet Graham 17@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>This week I am in Miami with my beloved. We are booked to spend the next several nights at Canyon Ranch. My choice is to be present every moment and savour each part of the experience. In fact, I choose to be delighted!! </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/what-is-pleasure#post-16 Mon, 18 Jan 2010 15:49:41 +0000 Janet Graham 16@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>I selected this question because it is a timely one for me. I am on vacation with my beloved in Miami and today pleasure means allowing myself to simply BE!! I might play a round of golf in the sunshine and warmth or have a bite to eat or a glass of wine somewhere casual and fun regardless I am certain pleasure means allowing myself a little time to simply BE !! Tomorrow or the day after pleasure may mean something else to me but today I am quite certain pleasure has absolutely nothing to do with what I am "doing" and everything to do with how I am "being"!!</p> <p>What about you? </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/what-is-it-to-be-exceptional-1#post-15 Mon, 11 Jan 2010 15:43:41 +0000 Janet Graham 15@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>For me it means being the best I can be, regardless of the pursuit or endeavour. Going for it...despite my fears!!! Holding nothing back!!! It's what I want for Babes this year!!! </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/a-whole-new-mind#post-13 Mon, 07 Dec 2009 15:29:26 +0000 Janet Graham 13@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>Check out my review of this book by Daniel Pink. </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/if-you-could-live-your-life-over-again-you-would-2#post-9 Thu, 03 Sep 2009 17:36:41 +0000 sjg4 9@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>not change anything that happened along the way, except maybe if I have unknowingly hurt the feelings of some players in my world.<br /> Even the so-called "negative" bumps along the road like my divorce and chronic pain have taught me so much about myself that it has turned my whole outlook towards the way I face each day right around, so that I've become more positive and more giving towards all people, not just the people I like.<br /> Hattie-san </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/how-would-you-rate-your-network#post-8 Thu, 03 Sep 2009 17:29:08 +0000 sjg4 8@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>I have to process this carefully. My first reaction is that it is totally subjective, so I have to take some time to think about when and where I would use it in the work environment.</p> <p>Hattie-san </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/if-you-could-live-your-life-over-again-you-would-2#post-7 Thu, 03 Sep 2009 17:15:38 +0000 sjg4 7@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>That is so special for you. I believe there is a master plan for everyone and for some reason the "FAMILY" part of your life was put on hold until you were older, more mature and more knowledgeable about relationships. "Your first would be your last would be your success."</p> <p>Hattie-san. </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/if-you-could-live-your-life-over-again-you-would-2#post-6 Thu, 03 Sep 2009 11:21:20 +0000 Janet Graham 6@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>I celebrated my third wedding anniversary a couple of days ago, so my answer to this question is simple. I would have sought out a wonderful, loving relationship sooner and I would have given a lot more thought to having children in my life. I have had the privilege of having a wonderful relationship and four beautiful children in my life the last 3+ years and I am grateful!! </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/how-would-you-rate-your-network#post-2 Thu, 27 Aug 2009 17:46:48 +0000 Janet Graham 2@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>My answer to this question is in the context of my "work" network. For this purpose, I use a simple rating system comprised of two components, Relevance and Enthusiasm. 
I rate a Relevant Contact a 1 if they actually have control over assignments or work I might want to do, a 2 if they have a great vantage point and a 3 if they have neither control nor vantage point. Hence, a low score is better in terms of Relevance. 
I rate an Enthusiastic Contact a 1 if they were or are a co-worker, a 2 if they were or are a closely dealt with outsider, a 3 if they are a by reputation only contact or a 4 if they are a non business contact. Again, a low score is better in terms of Enthusiasm.
A contact who scores 2 is one of the most "effective" contacts in my network in terms of being helpful with my obtaining assignments or work I might want to do.
This scoring is not something I necessarily do on an excel spread sheet; it is an exercise I might undertake more casually. Regardless, I know my network includes a significant number of contacts with low scores and I am grateful.
How does your network rate when you look at it from this perspective? Do you use another system to rate you own network of contacts? I would love to "hear" about it.
And I would love to "hear" your thoughts in terms of building a more effective network. </p> http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/topic/speak-your-mindeven-if-your-voice-shakes#post-1 Thu, 27 Aug 2009 17:46:08 +0000 Janet Graham 1@http://babesonbaystreet.com/forums/ <p>I just posted this quote on my blog, in fact I posted the entire quote which is "Stand before the people you fear and speak your mind...even if your voice shakes." I included a little bit about the author which I won't repeat here. 
I loved these words. What about you? </p>